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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Correct. If you experienced depression with your first child, it probably strained your marriage, so you should not repeat the process and focus on your mental health and the health of your child to ensure they can manage their mental issues that may have been passed down.

[b]My friend who is very smart all of a sudden clocked out on life. Just stopped caring and doing anything. She told me it runs in her family but didn’t hit her til she was 35. I’m so glad she didn’t have kids. Imagine how that impacts them. People need to stop being selfish and fully disclose issues to partners.[/b]

Kids can and have fully ruined people who are barely holding themselves together. So why bring more damage into your life? [/quote]

That's a dysfunctional response to a mental health issue. My mom "clocked out if life" around that she due to untreated depression, a resistance to getting treatment, and a martyr complex. I knew this was a concern and have always been proactive about my mental health because it was really awful growing up in a home with untreated mental illness. I have dealt with depression and anxiety, like many I'm my family, but I always just book an appointment with a therapist, work proactively through CBT, and figure it out. My DC, far from being negatively impacted by this, has learned good habits from it. For instance I know that regular exercise helps stabilize my mood a lot, and my kid has internalized the same.

If you are the sort of person to respond to a mental health problem with a fatalistic attitude, I agree kids aren't for you. But depression and anxiety are SO COMMON, of course many of us have learned how to manage them and it has in some ways made us better parents.[/quote]

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