Reply to Am I expected to set up my kids’ rooms at STBX’s house?

Forum Index » Parenting -- Special Concerns

Reply to "Am I expected to set up my kids’ rooms at STBX’s house?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, is anyone suggesting to you that you have an obligation to make his house more welcoming for your kids so that they want to go there? Is your ex saying this or implying it in some way? Have your kids brought it up? Are family or friends making passive aggressive comments about it?

If so, I get why you might be feeling this pressure, especially if your relationship with him was abusive in any way.

But everyone in the thread, and your lawyer, is correct. Not only does this obligation not exist, but you NEED to stay out of it. If he does nothing to make his house a home for your kids, then he will reap the consequences of that. Your job is to focus on yourself and your kids, make your home what it needs to be to help them through this process, listen to your lawyer, and get your own ducks in a row.

And if anyone is suggesting to you that you owe this to him, distance yourself from that person (unless it's your kids, in which case their confusion is understandable and you should gently explain to them why you cannot help with this even though it is undoubtedly hard for them). This is not a reasonable ask, if it is indeed an ask anyone is making.[/quote]

[b]Yes, his attorney sent my attorney an email earlier this month saying I was being hostile and uncooperative[/b]. [/quote]

SO WHAT????? WHO CARES? [/quote]

My ex's attorney sent my attorney a letter saying I was being hostile and uncooperative and threatening to sue me to modify custody. My lawyer replied telling them to F off, and I never heard another word about it.

Abusive ex-spouses will try to bully you through their attorneys just like they did in person when you were married. Just because he got his lawyer to send a message doesn't mean you need to go over and furnish and decorate a grown man's house for him. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics