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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have twins who also made it into elite universities (freshmen at Ivies) after some reasonably heavy and involved parenting and a lot of ups and downs in high school: lack of motivation from time-to-time, anxiety, ADHD for one, some drinking (no vaping). Basically super involved parents and some good, bad and ugly of teenage life.

I remember the relief of thinking "huh, we did it" but I'm hear to report that it all still continues in college: mood disorders, struggles with self-motivation (not with academics so far but in developing passions/interests), drinking, etc.  Sure they "made it" but in 2025, ATTENDING AN IVY is really not all that in and of itself.  It's probably a good launching point but the rat race only continues on.  For good internships, jobs, graduate schools the kids all need the top college grades, top clubs, top everything and a whole lot of self motivation and organization.

Relax, catch your breath and start crossing your fingers and praying.  That's what I'm doing.  I can't manage from afar so I hope it all works out. [/quote]

Yeah, I think we're where you were when you thought, "huh, we did it." Yes, LOTS of heavy parenting to get him into top school and I realize the race continues.[b] Celebrating the last 6 months of senior year and summer.[/b]

In a way, drinking too much that first time and ending up in the hospital (that was us as parents overreacting) wasn't the worst thing. It opened up the discussion around drinking. Allowed us to set strict rules for senior year (no drinking, no vaping - with drug tests and checks). So I'm hoping it will help with what we all know can be a rough entry to college life.[/quote]

Twin parent posting again and yes, definitely enjoy this window. It is very sweet and goes by so quickly. And congratulations![/quote]

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