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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have twins who also made it into elite universities (freshmen at Ivies) after some reasonably heavy and involved parenting and a lot of ups and downs in high school: lack of motivation from time-to-time, anxiety, ADHD for one, some drinking (no vaping). Basically super involved parents and some good, bad and ugly of teenage life.

I remember the relief of thinking "huh, we did it" but I'm hear to report that it all still continues in college: mood disorders, struggles with self-motivation (not with academics so far but in developing passions/interests), drinking, etc.  Sure they "made it" but in 2025, ATTENDING AN IVY is really not all that in and of itself.  It's probably a good launching point but the rat race only continues on.  For good internships, jobs, graduate schools the kids all need the top college grades, top clubs, top everything and a whole lot of self motivation and organization.

Relax, catch your breath and start crossing your fingers and praying.  That's what I'm doing.  I can't manage from afar so I hope it all works out. [/quote]

Yeah, I think we're where you were when you thought, "huh, we did it." Yes, LOTS of heavy parenting to get him into top school and I realize the race continues. Celebrating the last 6 months of senior year and summer.

In a way, drinking too much that first time and ending up in the hospital (that was us as parents overreacting) wasn't the worst thing. It opened up the discussion around drinking. [b]Allowed us to set strict rules for senior year (no drinking, no vaping - with drug tests and checks)[/b]. So I'm hoping it will help with what we all know can be a rough entry to college life.[/quote]

Oh, boy. And now he is going off to a hyper competitive college on his own…[/quote]

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