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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I will never understand people like you.

It's not either/or. Of course it comes from a place of concern, how could it not? No one asks these questions for fun or to pass the time. You are allowed to not respond fully, even if the one asking did not intend to be intrusive.

My father is probably in his last illness. My friends and distant relatives have asked many questions. I am glad to give them updates. And if they're asking just in case they or their loved ones are ever in that predicament, I am happy to help them out! That's how a community works.

I've lived long enough that I am never surprised by any question I receive. I'm multi-ethnic such that that my origins are not readily apparent: people throughout my life have asked me where I come from. It's not intrusive - they're genuinely curious and not ill-intentioned at all.

"Intrusion" is very subjective. 
You can choose to answer with specificity or not, OP. But I don't think you should feel offended.
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NP and I am going to stand up for OP here. I also have “lived long enough” to know that yes, while most people are genuinely concerned or showing care, there really are people who gather up bits of information to use later.

I know an older adult who loves to gossip. She especially loves to parse over the personal tragedies of other people. She genuinely relishes having hushed-tone gossip fests, especially about tragedies. They clearly make her feel better or safer about her own life. She has shared personal, medical information when I know for a fact the person she is gossiping about wanted to keep certain details private. She also speculated about a friend’s son, saying he committed suicide, even after his mother asked her to stop spreading that rumor.

Be grateful you don’t know the Tragedy Vulture type. Do not diminish the experience of others. All you have to do is search for “Tragedy Vulture” in this very forum, and you will see what people mean. [/quote]

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