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[quote=Anonymous]You need more boundaries around money. Do not share your salary with ANYONE. If they can look it up, so be it, but do not discuss. Do make clear your priority is paying off debt. Also, figure out your financial help limits and set them verbally. Work with a therapist so you can set firm boundaries and not keep changing them. Sadly, too often when we set boundaries with dysfunctional families we find they "loved" us for what we would do for them and there's no unconditional love. That's what DH and I found. When the bank of you or free labor gets limited, they don't feel gratitude for what you did until then, they feel rage that you are no longer east to use. When people show you who they are believe them. Remain calm and professional, but don't cave.[/quote]
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