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[quote=Anonymous]Well, if you're a close-knit family and they helped you when you were down, I think you cannot turn your back on them, but you need to manage their expectations and help for actually important things.

First, never talk about your salary. They seem like they're the sort to ask point blank, and you've answered in the past, so try to change that dynamic.

Second, your sister needs long term support. You can't give that, but you can pay lip service to that, by paying for the test prep course yourself, for each of her kids down the road.

Third, your mother cannot suddenly ask for reimbursement for a gift. That's just rude. You were right to push back.

Fourth, never give cash to people. Pay for specific bills, goods or services, so that you control where the money goes. That's a very important rule. It's too easy to become accustomed to cash flow from a benefactor, waste it on frivolous stuff, then be ungrateful for it.

Fifth, if your family is that hung up on your money, expect conflict going forward. You will need to manage that, not avoid it. You are right to propel yourself forward and protect your finances. [/quote]

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