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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Driving is fun and gives a person independence. It's not about you being willing to get things for him. It's about him being able to decide on a whim that he wants something, and going to get it. Or deciding on a nice day he'd like to go for a drive while listening to music, and doing it.

You're focusing on the wrong thing. [/quote]

What about the safety of others on the road? I will never understand why so many people put the ‘fun’ and need for independence of elderly people ahead of the safety of literally everyone else they might come in contact with on the road. [/quote]

You're misunderstanding. I'm one of the "fun" posters. We're not saying he can still drive because it's fun. My parent absolutely shouldn't and doesn't drive. I can and do choose to understand how hard that is and specifically why it's hard and try to fill those desires rather than just drop off meat.

Maybe he wants to know how Sam the butcher's grandkids are. Maybe he wants the freedom to think about a steak now and cook it tonight before OP can get it there. And get advice from the butcher on which cut and prep.

My parent likes to see the progress on a building going up and a different road construction project, likes to talk about old friends who used to live here or there, likes to tell me old routes of the roads or what used to be where, likes to pop into a store unplanned just to see what they have, etc. Figure out what driving and independence means to your Dad and help him still do that as much as possible minus him doing the mechanics of driving.[/quote]

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