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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Driving is fun and gives a person independence. It's not about you being willing to get things for him. It's about him being able to decide on a whim that he wants something, and going to get it. Or deciding on a nice day he'd like to go for a drive while listening to music, and doing it.

You're focusing on the wrong thing. [/quote]

You are confusing the independence with the “fun”.  Driving a go-kart is fun…driving a car is a means to an end and more of a chore.

PP mentioned Ubers…you have the independence and can go anywhere…Waymo will be even better because you control the music.[/quote]

Some people think driving is fun and love the actual driving part. I'm not talking about driving fast or dangerously, just driving. Being a passenger is completely different from being the driver.

Plus I consider seeing familiar buildings and reminiscing fun. Driving 12 miles to get the meat is an experience. My parent gave up driving and I asked what they missed and it included the actual driving, not just the independence.

That's not to say he should be driving, but don't dismiss the fun of it because you don't think it's fun.[/quote]

Some…but most don’t.  I actually enjoy mowing the lawn, but it’s silly to think most people do.[/quote]

I said "some people" in the first place. OP is calling his Dad's drive to the butcher "excess," which puts OP's value on it, not Dad's. I'd start there and ask him why he wanted to drive there. I'd bet it's not just to get the meat. My point is that I asked my parent and listened about why they didn't like having to give up driving and to the extent I can, I recreate what they miss about driving.

There's a safety issue on one side and a person's very sense of self on the other side.[/quote]

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