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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP. To address some comments:
- I don’t think it’s the parents’ excuse not to pay for college (on my friend’s part and definitely not on my part)
- no known issues such as adhd or anxiety but maybe?
- as for me, yes, my strategy is letting him mature as much as possible without irreparable harm to his grades. If he is still the same by college time, then he either doesn’t go or goes to CC or drops out, but then I can take it because he is an adult. 
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My friend did what you did, bird dogging her son through high school.

It totally backfired.  She did so much for him that he had zero confidence or organizational skills in college and barely finished.

Now he is a car detailer. 100 grand on college shot to hell.[/quote]

Okay this is interesting! Did she help him with his studies in college in any way or was he on his own?
And also a rhetorical question. How do we know he would have been better off if she let him be on his own (and possibly fail) in HS.
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