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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am so wary of all these stories that I go the opposite direction and never really hit up my kids. If they hit me up I often take up to a half hour to call them back and try to adjust my demeanor ahead of time.

I felt like my divorced parents terrorized me with their required phone calls - dad had to have it at 7am and I had to pick up, mom called me up to 10 times a day to the point where my work told me they could not stop keep patching her through. She was just sitting on her bed all day with an old fashioned corded phone by her side, [b]trying to look up old HS people by calling operators and asking for listings[/b]. (No internet yet)

So now I hate to get an unexpected phone call at all. Like it truly startles me.[/quote]

Your mom sounds like my mom, only she is using the internet to "connect with long-lost friends". She then proceeds to call them weekly, and not all are reciprocal, especially the spouses of these people. I've had one lady reach out to me via social media to "please ask your mother to stop contacting my husband, it is most inappopriate." This is someone she dated in HS. Everyone's in their late 60s now. To say that I am embarrassed for her is an understatement. And no, she doesn't have dementia. [/quote]

Back in the days before cell phones, my mom used to literally sit on her bed with the corded telephone looking up old friends from her Minnesota HS in the 50s and trying to brag about how she now lived in Manhattan. (Can you believe lil me lives in New York City?) Back then you would just call operators and give them names and get connected. She would call her male classmates first because they still had the same names, and get more numbers from them for her female classmates.

Then one day she called a classmate who apparently spent her time between a Napa valley winery, a home in the BVIs and they also had a very nice address in Manhattan and she apparently could not get off the phone quickly enough when the classmate suggested they get together the next time she was in the city.

I still lol remembering my mom being like, "who does she think she is bragging about all that"

She never made it to Facebook but that would have been wild. The Napa valley lady did find me on FB and asked me what happened to my mom she never heard from her again, so I sussed that one out. [/quote]

I am afraid to ask if you're one of my sisters[/quote]

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