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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Driving is fun and gives a person independence. It's not about you being willing to get things for him. It's about him being able to decide on a whim that he wants something, and going to get it. Or deciding on a nice day he'd like to go for a drive while listening to music, and doing it.

You're focusing on the wrong thing. [/quote]

You are confusing the independence with the “fun”.  Driving a go-kart is fun…driving a car is a means to an end and more of a chore.

PP mentioned Ubers…you have the independence and can go anywhere…Waymo will be even better because you control the music.[/quote]

Some people think driving is fun and love the actual driving part. I'm not talking about driving fast or dangerously, just driving. Being a passenger is completely different from being the driver.

Plus I consider seeing familiar buildings and reminiscing fun. Driving 12 miles to get the meat is an experience. My parent gave up driving and I asked what they missed and it included the actual driving, not just the independence.

That's not to say he should be driving, but don't dismiss the fun of it because you don't think it's fun.[/quote]

I will add-- do you or would you be willing to drive him wandering around where he wants to go even if it feels aimless or inefficient? I personally love to do this alone but also do this with my parent who gave up driving. Let them decide where to turn, and they may have stories. They may like the long route or the non-interstate.

I'm pretty sure other family members think I'm crazy and wouldn't do it, but it's a way for my parent to get as close as they safely can to something they really enjoy and it's a type of freedom. Plus bonus quality time.

(I don't listen to them saying it's safe to turn because sometimes it's not yet, but I listen to the route.)[/quote]

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