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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Tell DH what they said and ask him to explain the nuances to them and the reasons your DC applied ED to the ED school. Give them a chance to understand. Communication is key.

Then work on not caring what they think.

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OP here.  Of course I told DH what they said.  He just said they are idiots and wrong about a lot of things.  I don't think he cares what they think, but I am more of an empath and of course want my kid to be shielded from their grandparents' negativity.[/quote]

Thankfully, most teenagers are old enough to not care what grandparents think. The age/generation gap is huge, and they’re a degree removed, emotionally, even when they see their grandparents regularly.

I think you know this is about you. I say that kindly, as a fellow empath/sometimes “pleaser” who tends to work very (too?) hard to be understood.

I’ve learned that my life is not a consensus experience. Nor are the lives of my kids, my DH or anyone else.

There will always be people who disagree or don’t understand. And that’s ok. Everyone’s entitled to have their own opinion, informed, uninformed or otherwise.

The only thing I can control is my own thoughts, choices, and behaviors - including how I react to other people.

It sounds like you you, your DC, and your DH are all very happy with your choices here. Ground yourself in that thought and let other people’s opinions roll off you.

PS. One of my mantras is, “Opinions are like belly buttons. Everyone has one.” Those opinions are only special or impactful if you choose to make them that way. So don’t. [/quote]

Oh, and good luck!! I know from experience this is not easy. 💗[/quote]

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