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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We are both in our early 40s and I broke up with my GF of 3 years as she was having some behavioral issues with disrespect and being controlling and non-committed towards relationship. She wants to be close and everything is fine and happy for a month or so and then she would blow up on a small conflict that nothing is working and she wants out or that we are done. I was fed up of this erratic nature and ended it. She had a lot of stuff at my house and I asked her to bring a big truck so everything could go at one time but she only brought a small u-haul along with a family member. I packed most of her stuff as it would be easier and also to avoid any kinds of argument or issues during packing since I want it to be over too and it is hard for me as well. She knew that there were a lot of issues from her side and asked me to take her back so that she could work on them but I didn't because we have already gone over these things in the past and I can't trust her that these changes would be permanent. She goes into weird mood swings and rage from time to time and it is very unsettling. She was thankful for my help and left me a nice note like this:

"[i]Thank you for making the pick up so smooth and helping with packing. I underestimated how much stuff there was. I know you see me like I’m not feeling the pain or the hurt but I am. On my own in my own way. When I’m alone and allowed to be vulnerable. When I pick up the phone to txt you or wonder why i haven’t heard from you. It comes back in waves. I appreciate and I’m grateful for having you in my life even if for short time. Perhaps this will be one of things in my life I regret. I don’t know what the future holds for us but I only hope it’s filled with happiness! [/i]🥹"

She is supposed to come back again to pick up the her rest of the items but also communicated about a couple of other things for which I am not engaging much and keeping it as business since I am also healing and responding back within a day or so. She wants to be friends(asked 5-6 times) after the break-up but I told her NO as it doesn't work for me and I need to heal. Either she didn't like me taking my time to respond or whatever I don't know but out of the blue she sent me a nasty message and may be trying to pick a fight:

[i]"[i]I’ll add the concert ticket total to that as well. And as for picking up my stuff, thank you for trying to work with me and I’ll do my best with your short notice. And I wished you give me more dignity in getting my stuff than you just throwing things in boxes as if I were some crazy person and not the person you had intended to marry not that long ago. I would have never done the same to you. 
You told me I was to call on you as a my friend one day, but today you are more like my enemy.Don’t engage that’s fine. I’m just getting it off my chest.[/i]"[I]

I put her stuff nicely and arranged it in boxes to the best of my capacity and took me almost 3 days to collect everything. Ofcourse, she is angry and probably upset about the break-up and I didn't respond to the message but I am wondering if I should interact with her during return pick-up as she might create more drama or handle it some other way?[/quote]

Way too many words[/quote]

Yet still saying way too little. OP leaves out the details of the "Either she didn't like me taking my time to respond or whatever I don't know but out of the blue..." Nah, not "out of the blue". OP's complaining about the 3 days he spent packing, but it sounds like he wasn't respectful. If you've lived with someone long enough that they have a U-haul's worth of stuff in a home your shared, let them move it themselves. Be in the home, but out of the way and don't be such a control freak. Communicate in a timely fashion as needed to pinch things off. Don't play games.

Coming to DCUM and wall-o-texting like this strongly suggests OP already knows where they're they jerk (too), and left it out intentionally to justify his "she's so crazy" narrative. Fishy af.[/quote]

+1 yeah I don’t like it. 3 years? She can’t assemble her own stuff? Fishy af[/quote]

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