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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m trying to get a reality check.

December is always busy, but this year has been especially lopsided. Here’s what our weekends look like:

Last weekend DH was out of town for what is technically a “work conference,” but in reality it’s their annual corporate Christmas party that doubles as a networking event. It’s legitimate for him to attend, but practically speaking he was gone all weekend and everything at home was on me.

This weekend he’s away again for his brother’s bachelor party.

Next weekend he has year-end work travel and won’t be back until the afternoon on Saturday.

So he’s basically gone every weekend in December except Christmas weekend, and [b]the weekend after Christmas is his brother’s wedding, with all the events that come with that.[/b]

It’s my family’s “year” for Christmas, annd we do a big dinner Christmas Eve. Usually [b]we host a casual dinner at our house with ILs on the 26th or 27th[/b]. I really do not want to host this year. I’m exhausted, the month has been nonstop, and I’d love for our home to stay quiet and low-key in the small gap between his travel and the wedding.

I am open to going out to dinner with ILs, somewhere close, early reservation, and that’s it. But I’m worried they’ll feel slighted, and DH will stress about breaking tradition.

Given all of this, is it unreasonable to ask that we not host at our home this year? Is this a selfish request?[/quote]

I don't understand - the wedding is December 27th? And presumably the rehearsal dinner is the 26th? So when exactly are you supposed to host the in-laws for dinner?[/quote]
OP here. Sorry, I thought I mentioned the date: the wedding is the weekend after Christmas WEEKEND, the wedding is January 3rd.[/quote]

That is called the weekend after New Years, not the weekend after Christmas. Christmas is a day, December 25. Not a weekend when it falls on a Thursday.

In any event, do what you want. If your in-laws get mad you can either care or not.

And finally, and most important, IF YOUR HUSBAND IS GOING TO BE STRESSED ABOUT NOT DOING THE DINNER THEN HE DOES IT[/quote]

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