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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]That is not how it works. Cheating has no impact on division of marital assets.[/quote]

This is asking about settlement, not what’s judge is likely to do (the law).

To answer the OP: [b]it depends entirely on the psychology of the cheater.[/b] I am not far enough down this road to speak from personal experience yet but I know of a couple settlements where yes this happened because the cheater wanted to get out quick etc.

The issue many people run into however is that the cheater uses divorce or mediation as simply another form of abuse. [/quote]

The above hooded is a big part of this. My XH wanted out quickly.  He wanted to be rid of me instantly so he could get to his “happily ever after.”  He had his lawyer draw up his terms, which we used to establish the rock bottom and negotiated from there.  He got what he wanted: to be rid of me without a fight. I got what I wanted: a better settlement.

There’s space between what a judge would likely order and the best case scenario.  It pays to stay calm and not combative to not give the other party reason to dig in hard.  With some types, it won’t matter because they just want “their day in court.”  But if it’s possible, it pays to figure out what might motivate them to give ground. A desire for speed or guilt can help move the needle. It won’t be pie in the sky, but it makes it possible to get a more custom settlement that gets you a bit more of what you want.

*that should have said “above BOLDED.”  [/quote]

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