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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]That is not how it works. Cheating has no impact on division of marital assets.[/quote]

This is asking about settlement, not what’s judge is likely to do (the law).

To answer the OP: it depends entirely on the psychology of the cheater. I am not far enough down this road to speak from personal experience yet but I know of a couple settlements where yes this happened because the cheater wanted to get out quick etc.

The issue many people run into however is that the cheater uses divorce or mediation as simply another form of abuse. [/quote]

Thankfully, I guess, my cheater felt really guilty. He had cheated when the kids were little and I forgave him. I developed a chronic illness from having our kids. He had another affair (emotional, so he says) and knew he'd already blown his one get out of jail free card. He actually said that to me . . . how it was so sad that he was trapped and could never betray me again. But it was ok the one time? Um OK. I said, duh you are not trapped. I don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me.

So he offered me a good settlement. Offered me lifetime alimony, and even agreed to forgo the usual cohabitation clause. Claims he gave me more than half of the assets but that's dependent on his valuing different rental properties and businesses. I just wanted my half and I'm confident it was at least close.

I understand that I am extremely fortunate in how this all turned out. But I also refuse to get too excited about him doing the right thing in this one area when he failed in all the others. Our friends and family are generally good people and are utterly horrified by his actions. He would have been a total pariah if he'd tried to screw me financially too. [/quote]

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