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[quote=Anonymous]I have never done Elf on the Shelf. Lots of ways to make the holidays special without it. I'm not a huge fan of the concept behind Elf on the Shelf (of using it as a way to convince kids to behave).

I got a bad impression of it before I even had kids because some of the moms in my Facebook feed would stage extremely elaborate scenes with theirs and then post them. It was very elaborate and there were a lot of comments on their posts from other moms that were like "this is amazing, I wish I had the energy" or "you are putting me to shame, wow." When I became a mom, I quickly realized that I really didn't like this sort of competitive parenting and resolved not to post stuff like that to social media and not avoid social media that made me feel, always, like I needed to be doing more. There is so much pressure on moms, especially around the holidays, and I hate this increasing idea that moms need to "make magic" or "create memories." Elf on the Shelf, decorating, holiday outings, holiday cards... all of this is stuff that mostly women I know invest time in and men rarely take charge of, it becomes an expectation for moms, and I don't want to participate.

I pick and choose what I actually want to do. My DH chooses the traditions he wants to do and he's in charge of them unless it's something I'm invested in too. I avoid social media and work to avoid comparing our Christmas with that of other people. [/quote]

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