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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yeah … He needs to be seen by a dr. 
You both are overwhelmed w so many kids.

He appears checked out from you & those kids.. Guessing bc he’s been able to coast & do so for so long.

Ugh. [/quote]

OP here. I know I am super burnt out - I've been on baby nighttime duty since I gave birth. He sleeps with our middle child in their bedroom but kiddo oftentimes comes into the room for me, and then the baby wakes up, too 🫣

Not saying his job is easy, it certainly isn't physical at all. I used to work outside of the home before having kids and yeah, I get some days suck, mentally you're exhausted. He has time to listen to podcasts during each work day, so it leaves me wondering..

I appreciate your reply.[/quote]

OP You have to put your foot down. You know his actions or lack there of are unfair.

Yes life stinks at times  w littles however you two are a team .. and he’s not pulling his weight in any way shape or form

Only you can decide how much longer you can deal with & put up w all of what you’ve shared.

Wishing you the best! [/quote]

OP here. Yeah, I feel like I have - we got into a big argument this past summer where [b]I basically said I am contemplating separation[/b]and I'm doing all of the parenting work anyways.

He claimed he didn't know how I felt but that's utter BS because I've been communicating my needs and the kids' needs for years.

He said it was due opening for him but in 6 months nothing has changed. I'm starting to think about separation again.

Yesterday he was gone all day for a work off-site. When he got home he was on his phone again.. so frustrating.

I appreciate your reply.[/quote]

Id stop w the empty threats. Maybe get the ball rolling on that separation. Speak to some lawyers

He’s full of excuses & not gonna’ change. 
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OP here.

Unfortunately probably right. Last week he asked me something along the lines of, "Do you think you're going to have a better life living in an apartment if we separate?"

It caught me a bit off guard..[/quote]
That's him calling your bluff.

He knows he's exploiting you and he's asking what you're going to do about it.

You see, as hapless as you think he is, he's actually showing you that he's very clear thinking. He knows that, now that he has saddled you with kids and no job, he has you by the financial short hairs. He's telling you that he'll yank the money if you don't continue playing his unpaid slave. He doesn't think you're going anywhere and he's not going to change a single thing. He may very well be right.

You need to wake up and understand the position you're in. He doesn't need a diagnosis or testing lol. If anything, you need a diagnosis for why you're so unwilling to open your eyes.

He knows exactly how skewed the dynamic is and he's telling you that you're going to deal with this or else he'll impoverish you.  [/quote]

OP here. Sigh, it sucks to have to face reality.

I've talked about wanting to work for years (nothing full-time, just something to get me out of the house and help contribute financially). He has always told me I'm more useful at home taking care of the kids.

His parents are very wealthy and vindictive and would help to crush me, I'm sure 😞[/quote]

Where are your own parents ? 
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