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[quote=Anonymous][quote]And finally, this may sound a little weird and like something that you think won't bother you, but should be mentioned. Are you prepared to ALWAYS be the oldest parents around? To be a good 10 to 12 years older than the other parents in your youngest kid's class? 20 or so years older than your kids' teachers? (Yes, even in DC, where people will tell you that there are a lot of older parents!) Mostly it's fine, but I do mention it, because it will pop up continually in ways that will surprise you. (Like when you are celebrating your 50th birthday and all the other moms are moaning about turning 40!) [/quote]

The above is very well put. You may have your hands full already!
Today DH and I attended a meeting for starting HS. EVERYBODY was much younger than we were. Definitely felt like grand parents, and sorry to say, we looked the part (59) What did I think I would look like? I feel the gap a lot, especially when in newer situations. I feel more comfortable with people we have known for a long time, but the first impression is "grandparents" (and I look young for my age, but not 40).
The PP is right about the upkeep also. The casual look does not look as great at our age, so more effort, time, money goes into dressing/hair/exercise and so on. Our old friends are all semi retired or retired so their conversation is about their "lifestyle."
Having been very comfortable all my life financially, it is also difficult to adjust to the pressure of up coming expenses.
Sorry not very positive -- just saying that a new baby is a 20 year process! ...and half way along can be awkward.[/quote]

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