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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh man this was the low point in my relationship with my ILs. Traumatic birth, then they showed up and demanded to stay at our house despite being told they needed to stay at a hotel, took the baby out of my arms and told me to go lie down and despite my protests, made a big scene about all the things they were going to do with the baby and declared they were coming once a month for the rest of baby’s childhood, ate the last of our prepared food and bread before [b]finally going to a hotel after my husband put his foot down.[/b] Not entirely their fault but they are unable to be helpful (MIL is unwell and FIL is pretty much her nurse, and they both struggle with traveling) so it was not entirely unexpected, hence the requirement to stay at a hotel but I was not expecting the level of pushback or complete lack of concern for my health or preferences immediately after birth.
. I ended up having pretty significant postpartum issues and it was rough for a while but believe it or not we actually get along reasonably well now. Lots of boundaries and a united front by DH and me. [/quote]  I don't understand why people let other people treat them like trash before putting their foot down. You mean to tell me you let your IL take your newborn out of your arms and demand you go to bed?  Could never be me. If someone tried to snatch my newborn, the spirit of every ancestor I have would materialize behind me. The level of wrath I’d unlock would require a FEMA response team.  I do not play these games. [/quote]

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