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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why are you lying?

Your child cannot sign more than ~5K loans in freshman year. It increases a bit for subsequent years.

YOU are signing the loans. Is the deal that you're making him work year-round to reimburse you? Did he understand what working full time or near full time meant when he agreed to this deal? Would he prefer to transfer to an in-state college so as not to have to work? Maybe you could have him sign a contract in which he reimburses you afterward, on his salary, to give him a bit of breathing room now?

I hope you're discussing all the alternatives with him, instead of making him feel trapped.
Because right now, he's resentful of you, whether it's deserved or not, and he might carry that resentment for a long time. Resentment of an adult child against their parents can have long term consequences. You need to be the mature adult by presenting other viable options and giving him a sense of agency, so that he can own his choices.

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Then he needs to learn to be a man. Lord, it’s his personal choice to go to an expensive school. No one is constraining him to go to a college that costs 90k a year- hell, he could go to a school that costs 70k a year and all his problems would go away![/quote]

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