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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]They both stayed for companionship. It met their needs at the time. Not everyone is driven by a desire for marriage in every relationship. Relationships aren’t rom coms or fairy tales. They are complex interactions and dynamics and people get u to them and stay in them for many reasons. If it was what they both wanted, they were honest about it and it met their needs at the time, I don’t know why you would have an issue. The fact he wasn’t thinking about marriage over a decade ago doesn’t mean that isn’t something he wants now at this stage in life. I find it stranger when people only date for marriage, a lot of people get married far too young due to that mentality. Nothing wrong with giving yourself a bit of time to know what you want and who you want and live as an independent adult before seeking a relationship for the purpose of marriage. [/quote]

They weren't super young when they got together and they were both divorced.  I feel that she was hoping for a future with him and had communicated this to him, but he declined, yet they stayed a few years after the conversation.  I feel that she held on to hope for many years since they talked about a future together in the very beginning of their relationship.  And then he decided that they weren't compatible after a few years together.  I don't have an issue with this, but I also do not want to overlook any red flags.  This is my first relationship post divorce (6 years).  I dated only casually and I honestly had no intent to get remarried until I met him.  [/quote]

Was he stringing her along?
If he was aware that her goals were not aligned with his, he should have done her a favor and cut it off. He was wasting her time. She was a mode of convenience for him.[/quote]

She also knew his goals didn't align with her and chose to stay. Women are actually also capable of making decisions about their own lives. They both knew how the other felt, they both chose to stay. It was working for both of them, they stayed friends after  - no ones time was wasted. Women are not passive participants in life. They have autonomy and choice and can use it as they wish. [/quote]

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