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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t agree with doing that either OP but sincere question why do you care about this enough to type this on the internet?[/quote]
I guess I’m just tired of listening to essentially the same vent every time I talk to her. Basically “I signed my kid up for too much academically and he’s struggling and anxiety through the roof.” She takes him into work with her when he has days off so she can monitor that he is doing his homework. I honestly feel sorry for the kid.[/quote]

You know, I have a very close friend whose husband was diagnosed with a very debilitating disease.  When we chat, most of it is about his health, her struggles and fears and lots of tears.  I am honored that she can be open and honest with me even though our conversations are basically the same and have been for a few years.  It’s what friends do.  Just let this friend go as you aren’t a true friend.[/quote]
OP here.  It is different. I have a friend with a teenager with level 3 autism, non-verbal, not potty trained. Our conversations are the same and I listen to her vent, because she needs someone to hear her and I am a safe space.
For Cayden’s mom, it is “self” inflicted. He doesn’t need to be in Honors Alg II when he was already struggling over the summer.
I was his middle school robotics coach. I also introduced him to swim team. I have witnessed his anxiety first hand. Normally, it takes him 1-2 weeks into something “new” or “harder” for his anxiety to settle. His first season of swim team (he knew how to swim, private lessons) - he refused to go into the water the first practice, second practice he only stood in the water, and third practice he was out swimming with all the other kids. Each season of swimming, his is anxious the first 1-2 practices. Robotics - some practices I would let him just build on his own as he worked through his anxiety, and when he had worked through whatever had him anxious, he would join in. In this case, he has been struggling / anxious since late June - 5 months - with only a 1 week break between summer geometry and Honors Algebra.
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Do you understand that one of these kids won't ever be able to work to maintain financial independence as an adult, and the other will have to? And it's best if the one that has to go out into the world and earn his keep gets used to new things and transitions, etc? It's exposure therapy, OP. This kid would be so much more rigid if he didn't have this integrated life where he is accepted into society and made to do a host of different things that challenge his fears.

You really don't get it. It's so sad for you, especially in your position as coach.

Also explore why YOU are perseverating on this topic. You don't like to be wrong? You always need to have the last word?

Quit already. You're wrong on all levels.[/quote]

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