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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What if you overagreed with her? Like "you're right mom, SIL is the worst person on earth. She's a lazy person, brother deserves way better. He should divorce her so she can die alone." Sometimes I find if I mirror back an exaggerated version of someone's critical language, it's only then they truly hear how awful they sound and come to the person's defense. Obviously then you can gently explain that she's been too harsh on her, as you wouldn't want your mom to relay back to brother and SIL that you share that opinion.[/quote] Ha, I usually end up doing almost exactly this in the end, out of exasperation, after 15 minutes of hearing her double down on painting a negative picture of that person in response to my disagreement. In that context, of course she knows I'm not being sincere. But it throws her off, and it ends the discussion, even if she tells me not to do that. [/quote]
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