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[quote=Anonymous]I think you have to figure out what you want. Do you want your daughter to move in with her boyfriend because that's more cost effective? That seems a bit crazy for a relationship that's gotten serious in the last... two months? I would say that's too risky for a 30 year old, never mind a college kid.

Do you want her to contribute to her living expenses? You were fine paying before the boyfriend came into the picture, so this (fair or not) is going to feel like punishment to her, or that you don't like her or approve of her actions. Risky gamble for your relationship. Possible to this if for next year with careful spin. "Now that you're a junior, you're getting older and more mature, and I think it's time you started working part time after class and contributing to your living expenses. That's pretty reasonable.

Do you want her to move to a worse apartment since she's not there very often? That seems short sighted. This is a college relationship - how are you going to feel a few months later when they break up and she's in a crappy apartment all the time.

The one option that is not available to you is for your daughter to spend less time at her boyfriend's house. If that's what you want - you need to bite your tongue HARD.

If you're just in a place of "this isn't what I pictured for her" - well, welcoming to parenting an adult. It only gets worse for here. [/quote]

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