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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My freshman daughter is having trouble in high school and dh and I are worried about her. In middle school she had a good friend group and was friends with a lot of people. Most of her friends are at different schools now (private, application etc..). She has made some new friends but says she isn't close to them and misses her middle school friends terribly. They hang out on the weekend but it isn't enough especially with all of them having sports and activities. There have also been some complications and a couple of friendships have ended and that has definitely been hard on her. [b]She has been getting bad grades C's and B's with very few A's [/b]and overall has a worse attitude and is procrastinating on her homework and just seems very unhappy. I know this is common since its a change but how long until she adjusts and feels like she belongs again? For context she loved going to middle school (for the most part, of course there was some complaining involved) and seemed happy there. She told me she would do anything to "get her old life back" and it breaks my heart seeing her so hopeless.[/quote]

But those are not “bad grades.”  Earning a C is average.

Plus she’s only a freshman!  I’d just give her a little space .  Adolescents is a hard period of life.[/quote]

DP.  Those are bad grades.  Assuming OP’s daughter isn’t in AP classes.  Getting As in regular or honors 9th grade classes is pretty easy if you turn everything in and pay attention in class.

If this were my kid I’d start with talking about school.  Her priority right now needs to be school and figuring out how to do better in classes- not just for the letter grade but to be actually learning.  The grades you get in high school and the effort you put in does follow you to some extent and can impact what opportunities you have to moving forward after high school.

In contrast with the friends you have in high school and will likely never see again after gradation.  They mean nothing.  I know in those high school years they seem so important and like they are everything- but encourage her to see the bigger picture.  [/quote]

+1 finally, a voice of reason! She has to focus on her academics now or she will squander any chances of going to a good college. Bs and Cs in high school aren’t going to cut it. You don’t want her to end up at NOVA - then she will be really depressed.[/quote]

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