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[quote=Anonymous]A lot of families who do not reciprocate are not being rude on purpose. They genuinely do not sense the imbalance. There are a few psychological reasons for that.

Some people assume that if accepting invitations feels effortless to them, hosting must feel effortless to everyone else too. They do not track the invisible work involved, because they are not doing it.

Others grew up in families where reciprocity was never modeled, so it does not register as a social norm. They do not automatically think, "I should offer something back." It is simply not part of how they see relationships.

Some people avoid hosting because of anxiety, insecurity, or feeling overwhelmed. To protect their self-image, they convince themselves that hosting does not matter or that the hosting parent must enjoy it anyway. This is not intentional taking. It is a blind spot.

And for many people, silence gets interpreted as satisfaction. If the hosting parent never signals that it is a lot of work, they assume everything is fine and balanced.

None of this excuses chronic taking. It just explains why some people truly do not understand the importance of reciprocation in any form. Mutual effort keeps a relationship feeling respectful, but not everyone is wired to notice that naturally.[/quote]

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