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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]  Do you find some family members or people who know about your child's SN feel the need to share their wisdom having no experience raising someone with special needs? There are a lot of question marks for my teen's future, but apparently, if we figure out college isn't for him, he can just be a plumber. Did you know they make a lot of money? (If I had a dollar for every time I heard this). It doesn't matter if he has none of the skills or aptitude. He should magically go to and get through trade school and know what trade he wants and all will be magical. He is expected to be ready to live on his own and I shouldn't coddle him even though he has few of the independence skills he needs. It goes on. We have gotten intervention since he was a baby and he's had career assessments, etc. and he is an amazing young person. I set boundaries respectfully with the know-it-alls, but people can't seem to resist sharing their fix when they sense any anxiety, I have getting questions about where he will go once high school is over.  Those same people love to gossip about the failure to launch kid in the basement and they just judge the kids and the parents without having any understanding of all that people do to try to help their kids be able to launch to at some point.

I know people mean well and just want to have easy solutions, just a vent.

Thank you for coming to my TED talk.[/quote]

In the end, this entire post reflects your own judgment about yourself and the situation you are in. It's really important to understand that. People don't owe you understanding. You are in a position to educate others. If you show that you aren't worried about your child's lack of skills or aptitude, that you accept that they may never live on their own *and there's nothing wrong with that*, you can help open the eyes of those who don't realize that life is more than raising kids to be launching on their own. Perhaps you can convince others that it is more important to focus on what we as a society can do for individuals like this, so parents don't have to worry so much about what happens once they are no longer to support their special needs children.[/quote]

so parents don't have to worry so much about what happens once they are no longer *around* to support their special needs children.[/quote]

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