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[quote=Anonymous]The best you can do as a parent is to help your child live up to their natural ability.  You can't make them into something that they're not.  But you can screw them up big time if you do things wrong.  No pressure.

Kid #1 - got lucky.  He's an easygoing kid, smart, happy, good relationships with adults and peers, very responsible and trustworthy.  Which meant we gave him all kinds of independence growing up.  Which gave him confidence and a sense of personal responsibility.  Which led to us giving him even more independence and responsibility.  Etc.

Kid #2 - TBD, not an adult yet.  Very different from Kid #1.  More likely to take risks, which means we have more oversight and monitors in place.  Smarter than I'd like to admit, so he has the ability to get around most controls we put in place if he really wants to.  We're trying to find the balance of controls that keep him generally in line, without being so overcontrolling that he rebels and starts sneaking around.  I'll let you know if a few years how it turned out.

One real key is to keep them busy.  A bored teenager never led to any good.[/quote]

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