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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you are close and it’s important to her, I would do it (maybe just you, without husband). You might end up liking the place more than you like, or maybe your initial thoughts will be confirmed. Regardless, I just don’t think seeing “xyz bucket place” is more important than people that I love. If she didn’t care, it would be a different story. I don’t think it’s an obligation, just a really nice thing to do. [/quote]

OP here. This is where I am conflicted. I completely agree it would be "a really nice thing to do" and as I love my sister I want to make her happy. But I do wonder if my going per her "demand" would make her happy but make me resentful later on as it was not my choice. And what if my husband and I may not be able to take a nice trip that year. I know that there is no way to know this but I worry that this is part of the equation.[/quote]

The problem is that you brought judgment of her choice into it. That ship has sailed, now she knows how you feel. You can't claim budget or safety (which are also valid concerns). So there's really no point in going just to appease her. It won't be enough - the problem is your judging her, so you won't satisfy her now unless you are over the top with praise for this place, and eager to return. If you had not made your feelings clear, you could have just agreed to go, and kept coming up with excuses... that's the little dance that everyone does which everyone can see through, but there's a reason people do it, lol. At this point, just stand your ground, and you'll feel free.[/quote]

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