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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Yes she talked to her professors and they were accommodating, giving her extensions for assignments. However it’s still hard for her to get assignments done, sometimes it’s just very hard for her to start, even though the assignments are not hard according to her. She told me she wished there was someone who could get things together for her. That’s had been an issue at home but I used to help her. She is a very smart girl, just not good at managing her time. [/quote]

Totally understand. I feel like I am a secretary for my son, reminding him of what’s on the list all the time. He could get a tippy top score in a hard exam, but also get 0 in an easy project if he missed something. I am so worried. Can you remotely help her  in some way? Like sending her important reminders, checking her progress from time to time? This is not helicopter parenting. They need help all their lifetime. 
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FWIW I have serious ADHD but very high IQ. Now a college prof so coming out on the other side.
what I wish I knew in college were books about executive function, systems that worked for me. "Getting things done" (book) "7 habits for highly effective people" etc.  She should read these and develop and evolve systems that work for her. Get an ADHD coach.  you enabled her (not judging, I do the same with my son, worse ADHD and higher IQ than me and it is insane to watch) and now she needs to learn a few things to get by.  I had to learn basic things in college like that showing up to class tended to improve my grades.  You need to help her now help herself. Refer her to tutors, send her books or resources and stay out personally.  She will get tired.  Just like all humans.  She needs to figure out what works for her.  I wish you and her luck.  For me, freshman year was rough but I figured out enough to do pretty great in college and am constantly trying to learn enough to get by.  I'm sure DD will do it. But she also has to value it.  That is the hardest part.   [/quote]

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