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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’ve pretty much given up on adult relationships for this very reason. I don’t have the time or energy to play these games. It’s just not worth it for the ongoing text chain and occasional drink.

I’ve changed my mindset and don’t see it as a loss, it’s just the season I’m in, and there will be a new season eventually, where I’ll have more time or energy to make new friendships bloom. I’m busy and focus on my husband, kids, and work. There will be another season, this isn’t forever.[/quote]

This is where I landed too. I do have some old friends who I don't see a ton but stay in touch with via text, and DH and I have some couple friends (all from pre-kid life -- friends from college and post-college life). But none of them are my "bestie" and I'm more than okay with that. In fact, no longer looking for a best friend or even worrying much about friendships has been one of the most liberating things I've done in my life.

I think I'm just not a BFF sort of person. The way another woman might not want to be a mom, or might prefer to be single. I am married and I'm a mom, but I'm not that interested in having a bestie and the kind of friendship that I think a lot of people categorize as an ideal female friendship. I think it's fine that other women do it, but it's not for me. I'm not lonely or depressed (in fact the one thing I could use more of is downtime where I am alone) and I have people in my life I can turn to when I need people. There is no hole waiting to be filled with a best girlfriend, at least in my case.[/quote]

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