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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why would you box them up and leave them where the children have to step over and around them. Keep your anger and feelings away from your kids - trying to make them have a constant reminder of what he did to you is petty and harmful to the kids.

It is also still his house unless you have bought him out of it. DId he ask you to pack up his belongings?

Sounds like neither of you are thinking of the kids and both are just mad at each other and trying to inconvinience the other.[/quote]

Hardly that. I’ve boxed what I can in his office but the kids see the stuff every time they go to use the printer. My attorney suggested moving the stuff to the garage but they would see it there even more frequently.

Per temporary orders, I have sole use of our marital house and have the ability to file a motion for him to remove his stuff. But that’s the legal part. I just don’t understand the psychology of not wanting your stuff when you have a whole separate house that’s yours and yours alone. What’s even more strange and a separate thread is that he refuses to tell me where it is, won’t tell the children where it is, and is trying to get custody but apparently (per his attorney from a 1:1 conversation with my attorney) “doesn’t have time” to set up rooms for the kids.

It’s bonkers. I think he filed but somehow thought I would just pack my stuff, sell the house for him, and disappear from his life with zero hassle or effort. Now that he realizes that’s not how it works he seems exhausted and overwhelmed.[/quote]
Just file the motion and quit being dramatic pretending that the kids are upset. [/quote]

The kids are upset. Wouldn’t you be if you went to print something for school and saw your dad’s stuff but haven’t been seeing your dad? Of all the things to pretend about the last thing I would fake is the emotions of children.

Interestingly DH has claimed the kids aren’t upset and will be happy to see him happy. I think that arguments about the kids’ feelings not being real is something that gets trotted out by absent dads/men’s rights types.[/quote]
You could have left his belongings in the drawers they were in or put them in a closet. Instead you had to box them up and keep them in a spot you claim the kids are seeing frequently to them become upset over. And if they really are upset you have the option to file the order but haven’t done it.

But sure, you’re not dramatic at all.[/quote]

I didn’t take anything out of drawers- his desk drawers, entertainment center drawers, closet/dresser remain as is: full of his untouched stuff that I’m not messing with.

This is stuff that was literally in stacks around the house or left out on counters from the day he walked out: like travel mugs by the back door, stacks of books and papers in the kitchen, notebooks, cords, etc. I wouldn’t put effort into emptying out stuff and packing it, but I don’t think I nor my kids should have to work around a half full travel mug or stack of junk mail or his pile of pocket mess for the next however money months it takes to settle.[/quote]

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