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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A lot of times these costumes are clearly orchestrated entirely by the mom, you can tell the dad is wearing what he has been instructed to wear regardless of his feelings or opinions on the matter, and the theme has been chosen in large part to enable mom to wear what she wants.

Examples:

Mom is Cruella Deville, kids are Dalmatian puppies, dad is some character no one remembers the name wearing a distinctive hat.

Mom is Maleficent, kids are sleeping beauty and the prince, dad is in full makeup and carrying an oval picture frame as "the mirror."

Mom is Dorothy, kids are munchkins, dad is either the cowardly lion or the tin man.

Mom is Snow White, kids are dwarves, dad is the prince.

And on and on. I see these every year. Even when they are well executed, all I can think is that the family must get so tired of their lives revolving around mom's instagram plans.[/quote]

This is funny, because the family I know who does this the best has two dads. They aren't on instagram, they just like Halloween.  I think you are imagining dynamics that aren't there.

Honestly, if my spouse went to the trouble of figuring out what the kids wanted to be, and then making or sourcing coordinating costumes, I'd be happy to wear whatever spouse wanted.

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This is definitely not an imagined phenomenon -- I know multiple families who have done the exact costume set ups described in the PP. I also had two dads tell me on Halloween this year "I just wear what she tells me too, I don't even know what I am." Two!

That doesn't mean every family costume is imposed by a narcissistic mom who is just trying to score Instagram likes. I've seen plenty of family costumes that were clearly driven by kid preferences (where it was the kid's costumes that were the primary focus and parents were just wearing supporting cast costumes) or where it's clearly not about mom looking sexy or whatever. Like when the kids a monkey and moms in a banana costume, no one is thinking this is all about mom.

But yes there are absolutely women who will dictate their family's costumes as an excuse to wear something they think will be particularly flattering for them. Even if it means their kids are in sort of nothing costumes and their husband is wearing something humiliating. I have seen this many times, including this year![/quote]

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