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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you’re just going to be defensive all the time, good feedback might stop. Your manager sounds like he is a bit conflict averse, which is bad because you want to know what he is really thinking not just what he feels willing to tell you.

Try to stop thinking of this as a legal case. You are apparently not fulfilling your managers expectations. You might be able to be confrontational enough for him to back off, but that doesn’t really change his mind, just what he is willing to say.

If I were you, I’d try to do better on the areas he’s outlined. You have obviously annoyed someone on another team. Fair or not, that reflects badly on you. The best employees find a way to work at least neutrally with everyone.

And, respectfully, it sounds like you might need a little more humility. Doing well in the workplace isn’t just about being right or being efficient. Your coworkers, your boss, and their bosses in turn all matter to your success. If they don’t like you, you will never succeed.[/quote]

This is strong advice but I feel like it is possible that the manager is just letting sh*t flow downstream and cannot protect OP from whatever else is happening. Weak managers flail like this in dysfunctional offices. It may be impossible to get everyone to like you in such an environment. Still, you are clearly right that OP needs to at least try to take this at face value and figure out how to respond in a way that supports whatever it is the manager wants. In similar settings I have been confrontational because otherwise I will get thrown under the bus. [/quote]

Agreed. That said, if you have a truly bad manager or too deep of a political mess between teams, you should probably switch jobs. Pushing back may stop you from being unfairly punished for something out of your control, but it also usually doesn’t result in a promotion or systemic problems being fixed.[/quote]

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