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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here:  These are good ideas.

My observation is that parents are either:

1. Exhausted from overwork & don’t plan social things with preschool families aside from birthday parties (many nannies do drop-off / pick up at our school) as they are kind of just being pulled along by the tow of life rn

2.  In the case of my neighbors who also have young kids they are largely two FT parents and are also seemingly too tired to socialize on weeknights, and on weekends we mostly see them pulling their cars in & out of their driveways

3.  May want to make friends but are shy (the case with most dads I’ve met)

The pool is a good idea. Our kids are too young for swim team. Maybe in a couple years[/quote]

We’re relatively new to our city, and we’re totally open to/looking for new friendships with other families. But even given all that, we likely fall into bucket #2. One caveat - we’re not necessarily “too tired” for weeknight socializing, we just simply don’t have the time. Every weekday evening is a rush from the office to daycare pickup to home to getting dinner on the table to bathtime to bedtime to cleaning up and prepping for the next day. It’s a slog.

We then have to try to cram everything else in on the weekends - kid activities (and we don’t do much - just a quick rec soccer practice for the oldest and a swim lesson for the youngest), family outings, (frequent) birthday parties and (rare) play dates, errands, chores, plus making time to see local family and occasionally meet up with the couple of friends we already had here. I can see how a neighbor would only see us pulling into and out of our driveway. We aren’t spending a lot of time hanging out in the yard or going for walks around the neighborhood - even though I’d love to have neighborhood friends!

I’m hoping to reduce my hours at work next year so we can get a little breathing room in our schedule. I can totally see how other families with two parents working full time, especially outside the home, could be in a similar situation.[/quote]

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