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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Coming back to update. He was incredibly embarrassing in the meeting with the school. Despite us talking about it in advance, he made his comments about how he doesn't want our child labeled, called special needs, or have accommodations for a long period of time "to college". He wants the label removed as soon as possible.

None of which was being proposed. Literally all we are currently talking about is more testing / evaluations. I was dying of embarrassment. The school was super professional and answered his questions with the professionalism you would expect.

After the meeting I can't stand to be around him. I'm disgusted by the things he said. Come to find out these are his insecurities from childhood and he won't address and is putting that on our child. I don't know how to get over how he acted. [/quote]

I'm sorry. But please, try to let the embarrassment go. For school staff this is INCREDIBLY common, they are used to it and it does not annoy or surprise them. That is why they were easily able to be professional about it. It's all in a day's work for them. Focus on your child, who needs you, and on your DH's issues and difficulties. But do not give another thought to school staff's opinion of your DH. I've been a school staff member in SO many IEP meetings that go like this, and I just let it roll off my back and make a mental note to be extra caring to the mom. [/quote]

Thank you really appreciate that. I know they have heard much worse than what my husband said. I feel hurt by his words. I also feel like it's super hurtful to friends, family, the works that have special education needs. It felt like such a betrayal to hear him say those things. [/quote]

I say this as someone who has been there, and with so much empathy to what you are going through, but consider whether there's a chance that you're stuck on your anger towards your husband because it's easier to be mad at him than to be sad and uncertain about what is happening with your kid. Not that you don't have reason to be mad at your husband, just that maybe you're stuck there because you're having a tough time. Hang in there. [/quote]

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