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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are people really asking, "what do you do all day?" because honestly being a stay at home mom is really common. Are people really judging you or are you internalizing your own discomfort with not working? (Not judging, just asking)[/quote]
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Yes! Often but being a sahm is not common in my area so that may be why. Some people even seem contemptuous despite otherwise being friendly. Its hard for people to hide their judgments. I've had friends, my kids' teachers and strangers express disapproval by making blanket statements that are clearly made to offend. The higher SES just dont ask as much and are even encouraging (but I suspect they're just being kind). It is a bummer because I understand op wanting a neat answer but you have to accept that you cannot singlehandedly change people's deeply held biases. Its ok if people think you're making terrible choices if you know personally that its best. There is always someone that will happily look down on you, it will be ok, that is their issue to grapple with, do not let it be yours. [/quote]

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