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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Does your mom own a house?
Does she get social security 
Does she have other money?

Your answer to your brothers is “no, it’s not horrible. [b]what’s horrible is you moved far away without taking into account how you would care for our parents”[/b]

Then figure out the money and get your mom into a safe environment with good care and supplement that care with a companion.

It’s her money don’t try to save it for yall. 
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Good advice other than the bolded, which is flat-out ridiculous.  [/quote]

No it’s not. It points out they don’t care about mom’s care. Some kids stick around knowing mom and dad will need someone. These men DID NOT GAF about mom and dad. [/quote]

Your position is that any kid who moves away from their hometown, without having a plan regarding how to take care of their parents in the event they need eldercare "DO NOT GAF" about their parents?  Just as one example, the 22 yos who graduate college and get a job in another city need to have a plan for their 55 yo parents, who are a decade away from retirement?  What if the parents move - are the kids obligated to follow?

Sorry, you're right, that's not ridiculous - it's flat-out insane.  At best, it's a very 1830s view of the world.  Seems like you are coming to this situation with some baggage, and that's driving your opinions.  [/quote]

You’re being ridiculous if you think the woman who stayed close is required to care for mom and dad. This is not 1830s.

The boys don’t care. If they did, they would do something about it. They would not put it on their sister.

I have siblings who live far away and guess what they flew into town, they helped out, they did the taxes, they paid the bills, they ordered groceries and have them delivered, they helped coordinate care, they came and sold the house and helped move them into continuous care.

Yeah, a brother sitting in Texas complaining about their sister wanting help or wanting someone else to take a turn does not GAF about their parents or anybody else for that matter.[/quote]

Yes, if you are one of the remote kids (siblings), you have to contribute. Most likely with money unless you like to visit for 5-7 days a month
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