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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would try to figure out why you are so fixated on the social life you envision. I’m a SAHM, no local family, have lived in the same town for 10+ years, and don’t have anything like the social life you seem to want and see/imagine others having. And it’s completely fine!

No one is inviting us to BBQs or dinner parties. Our kids do stuff with other kids. Sometimes moms and kids will go on a hike or to a museum or something together. I initiate these things 9/10, but it doesn’t bother me. I walk with a friend once a week. But I think this social life you envision parents having is.. perhaps the norm for some people, but not so for many others. (My parents did not socialize like you describe, either).

Keep inviting people if you want to hang out with friends more. Do not worry about whether they reciprocate or not. [/quote]

This exactly!  Not everybody has time or wants to reciprocate.  Not every family has time to hang out all the time.  DH works all the time.  There is never a weekend or a vacation where he is not required to work.  So when he’s home, last thing he wants to do is hang out with others.  So many people in this area are constantly working.  My kids had play dates often but I was never obsessed about having the social life you desire.  I have a few good friends and that is fine.  I also hated hosting and met up with friends at playgrounds.  [/quote]

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