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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My child is a freshman athlete. Kid is def an older soul and is not your typical drinking/partying/silly 18 year old (that is not a judgment; I was like that). Also a bit more introverted. Kid also has social anxiety and likely mild adhd.

HS was fine but, again, kid not into football games, dances, etc.  Was very excited for college. But, so far it's been a mixed bag. Kid has lots of friends on the floor (when we were there, lots of kids coming to talk and give hugs), grades are fantastic but kid is def overwhelmed and homesick.

Now to my inquiry: Every other day (ish) we get calls that are "things are great" to "no one likes me" and crying. This week, kid was not explicitly asked to go to grab fast food after practice and the other kids in her year went. BUT it was a situation where they were asked where are they going, they said XXX restaurant and some were eating/some weren't. To me- you say, cool, ok if I meet you there? or something like that. But child says "they don't want hang out with me." When we talk, kid gets SUPER irrational and there is no reasoning with them. Kid REALLY want teammates to be besties but I don't know that is realistic or even typical.

Kid's on meds and attends therapy and while it seems to work sometimes, many times kid is not using coping mechanisms. Also, imo, not being assertive and is sometimes a wallflower. I'm at my wit's end b/c this makes me super anxious and upset, which I try not to show. And I don't want kid to sabotage things or to continue to see slights where there weren't any. And if they are being slighted, how to approach?

Any ideas? Also, I am obv not in therapy sessions. Is it permissible or a good idea to email the therapist to tell what I'm seeing? I don't know the rules there.

Please be kind. My spouse and I are very anxious and upset about all this. [/quote]

Your daughter is 18 years old and hormonal. We were all like this, OP. And it sounds like you're projecting your own anxiety onto the situation.

Let her grow up. None of this is fatal. It's part of life.

And stop trying to hide the fact that it's your daughter and not your son. We all know.[/quote]

OP. You all cannot help but be nasty can you (And this is directed at several posters)? Oh well. I'm not here for this so bye. Flame away.[/quote]

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