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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My childhood BF’s mom committed suicide when she was 13. Her father remarried 6 months later. It was very scandalous and my parents, who were very good friends with them, cut him off. I was angry about it for many many years until I came to the realization that he was probably scared and at a loss as to how to raise four kids alone. It’s actually given me a different perspective on quick remarriages - some people just don’t know how to be alone or raise kids by themselves.[/quote]

Nah, men don’t get a free pass.

My mom bailed when we were young. My dad had been the breadwinner,  and now had to work *and* raise 3 kids alone. He stepped up, was a great dad, and never even dated until we were well into our 20s.

Life happens, and if you’re not sure you can raise kids alone if something happens, don’t have them. [/quote]

Kudos to your dad, that's awesome.

I had an uncle who did that -- raised two girls on his own after their mom ran out on them. He never remarried, just dedicated himself to his kids who loved and adored him and happily took care of him in his old age. I am not against people getting remarried in situations like that, but I think of the way he found his happiness in his existing family, his kids, and turned that into a deeply fulfilling life. I think some people look at their kids with their ex as an obstacle to their personal happiness and fulfillment, and that's part of what drives these quickie remarriages. I think my uncle had it right, though. Your kids are yours no matter what, why not make them your focus?[/quote]

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