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[quote=Anonymous]He’s feeling overwhelmed. Whether this is due to anxiety, depression, ADHD or just old fashioned procrastination, he’s not up to tackling this on his own. He won’t master the necessary skills to be 100% functional in the next week. Although he needs to learn and grow from this experience, his immediate need is to get academics under control.

I would explain that we’ve tried it his way (me giving him space and not intervening) and it sounds like he’s now in over his head, so for the last week of the quarter, we will be sitting down together at the kitchen table to study. I’m happy to help him look things up, highlight text, make flash cards, ask questions from a study guide, make a vocab list, make up mnemonic devices or just sit there as a calming presence so he’s not alone. When he’s too tired to read something, I’ll read it aloud. I will provide snacks and moral support. I will stay up late with him.

The important thing is to stress that he still has a chance to improve his performance and should not give up. Resilience is a crucial life skill — far more important than grades. He doesn’t have to have A’s, but he does need to learn how to push through adversity. That’s your goal for the next week: resilience, determination, grit. He doesn’t need to keep trying because of how this will affect college admissions; he needs to keep trying because life is full of demands and challenges and deadlines and boring, monotonous work and we can’t just give up.
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