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[quote=Anonymous]I’m so surprised by all the people who say to call it quits! I’m a night owl married to an early bird, we’ve been very happy together for 20 years and we’re both extroverts. It’s totally hard wired. There’s no way I’m going to be able to go to sleep at 10pm, just like there’s no way he is going to magically start sleeping in and be wide awake at midnight.

We don’t attempt to get on each other’s sleep schedule. How would that even work? Of course your boyfriend is going to toss and turn and get up and down if you make him get in bed with you! My DH goes to bed 2 hours before me, and then I sleep 2 hours later than he does. So there’s no waking each other up. I get in bed when I’m ready to go to sleep, and he gets out of bed when he is ready to wake up. We were like 3 weeks into dating when we figured this out, after I spent a sleepless night tossing and turning and then was a zombie when I left with him at 6am!

Maybe if you only see each other on weekends, it would limit your time together. But we are awake for the majority of the day every day, and now that we can work from home, we have lunch and dinner together.

The split sleeping habits really helped when we had kids. I dealt with all the wake ups in the first half of the night, and he took the early mornings. We were both so tired in the newborn stage, it’s the only time I was able to fall asleep early! This has worked from toddlers all the way to teenagers. He is awake early and makes breakfast and helps get them dressed, and then I stay up late doing all the dishes, prepping breakfasts and lunches, folding laundry and laying out outfits etc. I did generally sleep late on weekends even when the kids were little. It doesn’t take two people to pour some cereal and turn on cartoons. He would get the kids out of the house to a playground or whatever when they were all wide away at 7am. And then he would take a nap in the afternoon while I stayed awake all day. Obviously there are lots of times I have to wake up early to deal with kid stuff, so many early morning soccer games! And there are lots of times he is up later than his 9pm bedtime, because teen sports run late! But we love each other and do the best that we can to let the other person sleep. [/quote]

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