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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here - can anyone talk about what is abuse to kids? Is just anger and yelling abuse or is that normal for a DH/dad? I feel like I have normalized things over the past many many years so I am unsure if I’m being dramatic or if it’s abuse. [/quote]

90% of time neglect and ignore kids, then explode 
Push and pull dynamic with them.
Kids are starved for attention so then become pawns.
He’d buy them whatever they wanted, dole out screens, candy, cake if he was “with it.” 
Never parenting, no discipline
Parentified the children - they’d have to clean up after him. He’d have them make all parenting decisions. Decide what to do. [/quote]

Can add this to my list too - he even wrote in his court materials how daughter was a "good girl" because she "even makes him his coffee" and cleans up the kitchen wiping down the counters and remembering what groceries they need. He also wrote about taking them to an activity he knew she didn’t like, "but that she pretended to like it to make [him] happy and show an interest in something he liked, she is such a good girl". She was 9.

He also praised "maturity" to serve his interests and compliments were more like orders "I'm so proud of you, you always take care of your little brother" making her the mother/responsible parent.[/quote]

That’s gross.

Family courts in America really go for this? Poor kids. They have no rights. [/quote]
What’s gross is people having children with someone they should not and then complaining about it later. [/quote]

Lucky for you 40% of children have a “father” who never showed up at all, even for child support. He just hit and forget it. Skipped town. Had many children with many women. Skipped town.

So what’s left is the other 60% of childrens fathers who aren’t in jail or running off but aren’t doing so hot as fathers or life partners either [/quote]

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