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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think therapy can work, but you need the right therapist and possibly you need to set boundaries.

If your daughter keeps coming up with reasons for treating you poorly, perhaps ask the therapist what this might accomplish in terms of moving forward.

I agree with others in that therapists sometimes does not seem to recognize family obligations other than parent to child.  [b]Children have obligations to their parents as well, it's a two-way street.[/b][/quote]

:roll:  :roll:  :roll:

Sounds exactly like what an abusive parent would say. No, your kids do NOT have any obligations to you. You choose to have them! [/quote]

I have a teen, and we’ve been in family therapy for a long time (he has special needs), and all relationships are a two way street. [b]There aren’t obligations from child to parent in the same way there are from parent to child, but no relationship between 2 people is one directional. [/b][/quote]

PP here. So what obligations does your teen have to you besides the obvious (attend school, complete chores, be respectful to parents)?[/quote]

I mean, I think those are the main ones! I said they don’t have the same level of obligations that parents do towards their children. That doesn’t mean children have zero - and you just labeled 3 for yourself!

Relationships between people are (almost) never one directional. [b]And children definitely shouldn’t be taught that their parents owe them everything and the kids don’t have any responsibility as a member of the family. That gives kids too much power before they’re ready to handle it. [/b][/quote]

PP here. I don't disagree entirely but we're not talking about kids; presumably, OP's children are adults (which is why she's posting in the adult children forum and not, say, the teens and tweens forum). [/quote]

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