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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your husband is an a$$hole and is gaslighting you. Is this his normal behavior? [/quote]

This x 1,000,000. 
He is gaslighting because he is trying to make you think that your behavior and outlook are the problem, not his behavior and how he is responding to the situation.

He f-ed up, realized he f-ed up, decided the best defense was an offense, and now here you are. OP, does he usually have trouble apologizing?

Why would he think there’s suddenly a random pot of broth on the stove? Why wouldn’t he text you to ask what it was?

I’m sure he’s telling himself that he was just trying to help and this is the thanks he gets, and no matter what he does you don’t appreciate him or his efforts. [/quote]

Not op, but I'm afraid we are married to the same man. We had practically this same interaction this morning over something different, but eerie similarities that have me questioning what I did wrong. It's becoming really common.

He can't apologize for anything without making it a defense. "I'm sorry BUT you did xyz, how should I know?" And then he wonders why I'm still upset later on and if I say my feelings are hurt because he yelled or was snappy and I was hoping for an apology he gets so huffy that he did apologize and now can't do anything right in my eyes.

I'm sorry, op, it's an awful place to be in.[/quote]

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