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[quote=Anonymous]I grew up with local grandparents and was fortunate enough to see them about 1-2 times/week, but everyone liked everyone so there wasn’t any drama over it.  Also, if something came up, nobody was upset if it didn’t work out to come for a week (or longer).  If we were unavailable due to vacation or other positive things, they were happy for us.

Since I sincerely enjoyed my grandparents’ company, it was pretty common for me to visit by myself.  They’d pick me up on early release days and we’d spend the afternoon playing games, or I might spend the night sometimes.  My senior year, the tension between my parents and I got so bad that a weekend visit was such a relief that it was extended, and then a case of chicken pox further made sense so that I could be cared for by my retired grandparents without my parents having to take sickleave, and then it was Spring Break, so it didn’t make sense to stay home alone. . .  I basically spent a month or two living with my grandparents and not seeing my parents at all, and we were all better for it.

Basically, if your kids and their grandparents mutually want to see each other, it can be arranged without burdening you significantly, and can probably be coordinated to be helpful.  On the other hand, if the kids aren’t particularly invested and everyone sees it more as an obligation, 1/week and significant holidays are more than enough to fulfill any perceived responsibility, so you could even cut back without needing to feel guilty.[/quote]

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