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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A couple of things. It isn’t a dump if the family picked him up.

The family needs to cast a wider net when looking for a facility. It is going to be a nightmare to find a facility to take him now that he has a record of going into vulnerable people’s rooms in an agitated state during the night and add to that the violence toward staff with two not being able to contain him. This will all be disclosed to anywhere you consider.

An ER is an option but it’s not the panacea that PP makes it sound. A placement isn’t going to magically appear because he’s in the ER. If they have to keep him, the care will suck. He won’t get a hospital room - he’ll be stick in an ER bed, which depending on the facility is just a bed behind a curtain with irregular meals and no routine. His confusion will go off the wall and if he gets agitated he could be restrained and medicated with heavy duty psych meds and could end up involuntarily committed in a psych placement. Plus someone has to pay for that so if there is money it might be better spent in other ways.

An attorney and adult protective services are good resources.

Last thing. You are rather dismissive of the staffs’ injuries. Your FIL sent a staff member to the ER. That’s serious and it’s pretty shocking that your reaction doesn’t recognize that he hurt someone and those injuries could have long term affects. [/quote]

Apologies if it seemed that way—just providing context in case the nursing home could have been overstating the seriousness of the situation to bully my sibling-in-law. [/quote]

They are probably not overstating. They are not the appropriate placement for him at this point, as evidenced by not being able to keep anyone safe - not the staff, not other residents and not him.

Not all facilities have the infrastructure and/or staffing to handle all levels of care. That’s why you need a wider net.

If he is private pay, you could try to find someplace where they would allow you to bring in your own 1:1.

Your situation is really tough (and could get worse depending on politics, but that’s for another post). When people are a danger to self or others, usually the result is psych placement. Had you all not gone to get your FIL that may be where he ended up. Hard as your situation is, it might be the best available at the moment.

I hope you find something soon. [/quote]

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